To those of us working in the Coaching Profession these parodies of life coaching may seem humorous or over-the-top, however there is often a kernel of truth underlying the humour. So in between the laughs there are actually a few tips we can take away from this video.
As a coach, it is important to avoid using jargonistic terms and language that may be confusing or off-putting to clients. Remember some clients may never have worked with a Coach before and may be unfamiliar with even some of the basic coaching concepts. So phrases like “holding the space,” or “playing a bigger game,” or “manifesting your reality.” may mot connect in the way you intend.
Avoid using cliches or overly-simplistic phrases
Additionally, coaches should avoid using cliches or overly-simplistic phrases like “just do it,” “just let go,” and “what do you really really want.” These phrases can be dismissive of the complex issues that clients may be facing and can make it difficult for clients to feel heard and understood.
Focus on Connection
However, it is important to note that there is nothing inherently wrong with any of these questions if they are used in the right context with the right intent. For example, letting a client know that the session is confidential and that nothing they say will be repeated can make a huge difference to the extent to which they can be vulnerable. Likewise asking a client about their values and encouraging them to reach beyond what they currently want in life can be a valuable exercise in self-discovery. Asking a client to focus on the present moment can be a helpful tool for managing stress and anxiety. And encouraging a client to take action towards their goals can be a powerful motivator.
The main thing is to be authentic, to really listen to your client and ask your questions using clear, every day language.